Thursday, December 13, 2012

I'll Be Home for Christmas

    
     One of the subjects at church recently has been about how Jesus coming to earth is the physical manifestation of God's infinite love. It made me think about how we can tell people that we love them, but there is something very tactile about humans, we need to feel love as well as know it.  Tell someone about God's love and they might know it, but hug them, love them and they might feel it deep in their hearts. The beautiful children of Sierra Leone wanted was to hold our hands, to feel our love and acceptance.  Our Room at the Inn visitors need a warm place to stay and a good meal.  Our Salkehatchie homeowners need to feel safe and warm in their homes, and everyone who is hurting needs a hug.


     Sometimes we try to show love but are rejected.  Last week there was a report about a young policeman in New York who was seen giving a homeless man a pair of boots.  He had seen the man's need, gone to a store and, using his own funds, bought boots and socks for the poor man.  Returning to the man, he knelt down and didn't just give them to the man, but put the socks and boots on the man, showing great love and tenderness.  

     Less than a week later the homeless man was seen, without shoes again.  He said that he was going to sell the boots he had been given.  Many people saw that as a rejection of the love offered to him.   Maybe he wasn't ready to be loved, but that doesn't mean that the policeman's love was wasted. 


     We don't get to choose how our love is received, we can only choose the way in which we offer it.  God sent his love to the whole world, but not everyone is ready to accept it.  Just like the policeman's gift, God's gift was not wasted, sometimes it is just delayed.



    Those of you who know me, know that I don't like delays.  I am not good at waiting for what I need or want.  When we took on the Betty project I knew that my biggest problem would be the long project time.  I'm ready to put the shovel in the ground.  As Christmas approaches I feel like we are just not moving fast enough for BBAH.  So, to satisfy myself I have "decorated" Betty's house for Christmas.  It's a little cheesy, but it makes me happy to see what it might look like next year at this time.

     With Christmas just around the corner, I have found myself singing "I'll be Home for Christmas" over and over in my head.  It makes me think about Betty and Odessa and their homes, both the one that was and the one that will be.  Last year Betty had her home during Christmas.  She probably had decorations up and the smells of the holidays in the kitchen.  We haven't talked about what Christmas was like in her home, but whatever makes Christmas special is that feeling of "home" wherever home may be. 

     I pray that next year Betty and Odessa will be at home again, decorations around them, smells of baking and fir trees surrounding them, welcoming them home for Christmas.  I also pray that they feel can accept the home as what I see it as, God reaching down, through the arms of her brothers and sisters in Christ and offering her a hug.  A year ago Betty and Odessa were probably not aware of how much they were loved.  I hope that they are patiently waiting for the warm and loving hug that their new home will remind them of for many years to come.
    

Tuesday, September 11, 2012

Ready?

Just a quick post.  On September 29, 2012, we will hold the first fundraiser for Betty's House Build.  From noon - 5pm at Huntersville United Methodist Church we will have Lancaster's BBQ and Christian music.  Betty will be there!  So come on out, have some great BBQ and join us in the celebration of God bringing a community together.

Wednesday, August 22, 2012

Building on Solid Ground


The house we are building for Betty and her sister is a 3 bedroom, 2 bath model from Habitat for Humanity.  Before their home burned, Betty’s sister, Odessa had been planning to move in with her.  Betty and Odessa dream of a yellow house with a front porch where they can sit with family and friends.  A few weeks ago Betty went to look at some new Habitat homes to find a model that would work for her and Odessa.  She fell in love with this home.  Isn't it adorable?

On August 21, 2012 we had the fifth "Betty Build" meeting and Ann Gibert started us off with  a devotion.  She told us about storytelling to preschoolers at Vacation Bible School a couple of weeks ago. 


"By the last night, we were in a groove. I realized that the thing that most of the stories of the week had in common was that they involved houses as either the focus or the locus of the story. So, on this last night, we pulled out some wooden blocks and my youth helper and I had a “build-off” to see who could make the coolest house. Hers was waaaaay better, but she had built it on a “foundation” of a pillow, while mine was on the ground. Just like the story said, when things got stormy, her house fell down. That's supposed to be the end of the story, because in it's original form it's designed to show the difference between a life built on solid biblical principles and a life that has no such foundation.
      But something happened that surprised me. God gave me a different way to think about that story. As we acted it out, my helper pretended (very effectively) to be very sad because her house had been destroyed. It's not in the story, but I couldn't just end there with a “crying” homeowner. So, I ad-libbed a new ending to the story. I Invited my neighbor to share my house, which made her and the pre-schoolers happy.
      When those of us now involved with Build Betty a House heard her story, we reacted the way the pre-schoolers did. It didn't matter what had happened to her house or how it happened as much as the fact that she no longer has one. She was sad, and as the community of faith in Huntersville, we feel called to make things right. This isn't about whether Betty “deserves” a house, or has “earned” a house, any more than we earn or deserve eternal life. It's about showing compassion, and responding to God's clear call to us to build something much bigger than a house. Yes, Betty will get a house, and it will be a great thing for her and her family, but what we have discovered this is really about is building community."

     The most exciting aspect of this project is the clear presence of God in each and every step of the process.  The group which has formed to build Betty's house includes Catholics, Presbyterians, Methodists, Mormons, Baptists, Episcopalians, and Jews.  There are artists, writers, sign makers, contractors, demolition experts, pastors and many others willing to band together in faith to Build for Betty because we all feel that God is calling

     Please share this blog with friends and family.  Demolition of the burned home will be in the next couple of weeks and several fundraisers will be announced soon!  Hang on tight, here we go.





Saturday, August 4, 2012

"So the whole world will know that we're not alone"

     Well, Salkehatchie Huntersville is finished, and I feel much like I do about Christ on the cross.  It hurts my heart to see it die, but I know that the best is yet to come.  Now, I don't presume a Christ-like status, but follow me with the metaphor for a moment.      Salkehatchie, like Christ, brought together a rag-tag bunch of misfits who feared appearing foolish, sometimes failed to live up to the example of Christ and doubted everything. It was often hard, hot and sometimes thankless work.  But through it all, the Salkehatchie family, like the early Christians, persevered, grew in faith and love, and formed the foundation of something new and radical in the world. Christ's work, while in his earthly body; was wondrous, miraculous and defied explanation, but it is his death and resurrection that changed mankind.  I pray that the Salkehatchie Huntersville story is just beginning a new chapter.  I believe it is and I believe that Ms. Betty's house plays an important role in that chapter.


     As a part of the closing of camp, an announcement was made that a collection of funds had been donated to the fund for Betty's home in honor of the work Jerry and I have done for Salkehatchie.  That still brings tears to my eyes.  There is no greater gift than to know that you made a difference, you mattered in someone's life and to know that has manifested into a tangible gift to improve someone else's life is...well, AWESOME!  Thank you, all of you, for reminding us that we're not alone.

     The Matt Maher song, "Hold Us Together" is not new, but it was new to me.  It sounds so "Salkehatchie" to me and I found myself ruminating on it and waking up humming it.  When we were talking to Perry Brittian about helping us with the music for camp, I asked him if it was a song he knew.  His response?  "No, but I have been thinking about it a lot lately and I want to learn it."  To me, this was a God thing.  The song touches me so deeply and reminded me again and again that,

     "This is the first day of the rest of your life
     'Cause even in the dark, you can still see the light It's gonna be alright, it's gonna be alright"


Hold Us Together
Matt Maher 
(Hit Play Button to Hear Song)

It don't have a job,
don't pay your bills
Won't buy you a home in Beverly Hills
Won't fix your life
in five easy steps
Ain't the law of the land or the government
But it's all you need

And love will hold us together
Make us a shelter to weather the storm
And I'll be my brother's keeper
So the whole world will know that we're not alone

It's waiting for you knocking at your door
In the moment of truth when your heart hits the floor
And you're on your knees

And love will hold us together
Make us a shelter to weather the storm
And I'll be my brother's keeper
So the whole world will know that we're not alone

This is the first day of the rest of your life
This is the first day of the rest of your life
'Cause even in the dark, you can still see the light It's gonna be alright, it's gonna be alright
This is the first day of the rest of your life
This is the first day of the rest of your life
'Cause even in the dark, you can still see the light It's gonna be alright, it's gonna be alright

Love will hold us together
Make us a shelter to weather the storm
And I'll be my brother's keeper
So the whole world will know that we're not alone

     On Tuesday the steering committee for Betty's house meets again and I am so excited to see the house that Love will build.  God Bless you all! 
 

Friday, July 20, 2012

The Adventure

     Tomorrow is the first day of Salkehatchie Huntersville 2012.  The tools are organized, the 2 garages are cleaned and the air mattress is packed.  While I'm sad that we can't include Betty's house in the homes we work on this week, I know that God has plan and His time is the perfect time.  Since it was Salkehatchie that. brought Betty into our lives, I think it is a appropriate to share a little about what is so special about camp.
     Salkehatchie is my favorite week of the year, hands down.  It is the week when I laugh more, cry more and sweat more than any other time of the year.  The youth and adults that I know from camp are my family, closer than siblings.  (I seem to have more than my share of crazy cousins!)  It is also the week when I feel like God is right there beside me, holding me, crying with me and cheering me on.  He is there in the worship, in the work and mostly in the relationships. 
     A few years ago,while working on a home, I learned an important lesson about God's work.  It was one of those projects when everything seemed to go wrong.  We expect to run into road blocks on a Salkehatchie site.  Termites, broken sewage lines, leaks and stepping through a roof are part of a normal week's work.  That particular week was not normal.  Our homeowner, Joan, was a particularly Godly woman.  When she saw my distress, she took me aside, hugged me and said, "You know that you are doing God's work, otherwise the Devil wouldn't be so offended."  Wow!  I think of that lesson often when things get difficult.  God uses our struggles to draw us closer.
     I have been told that I can be intimidating, especially during Salkehatchie week.  Although we talk about "getting finished" with the homes, in reality, it is not about finishing.  The homes we work on are never really finished.  The fellowship is in the struggle and I expect a lot from the kids I work with, from the other adults as well as from myself.  Put simply, it is the week when we are called on to put the world aside and give 100% to God.  To come to Salkehatchie and not give everything is cheating yourself out of being fully present with God.
     When we help on a home, the way I see it, we are working alongside The Father, The Son and the Holy Ghost.  When we worship together, show love to one another and praise His name; God, the Father is there with us.  When we show our homeowners unconditional love; the Holy Ghost is there.  When we work on the homes and show the physical manifestation of love; Jesus is there with us. 
     So tomorrow we begin the adventure.  Walking with God is many things, above all it is always an adventure.

Thursday, July 12, 2012

A Moment of Grace


     As a mother, one of the hardest and most repeated lessons is that the work is never done. There are short moments when the laundry is all done, the floors are mopped, the kitchen is clean and the mess is put away.  But we know…It’s coming back!  It is so hard to accept that tiny sliver of time for what it is.  A moment of Grace. 

     As Christians we have much the same problem.  We travel to Africa to clean wells for a village and find that a year later the villagers have allowed those wells to return to their former foul state.  We repair a home for a family and years later the homeowner has allowed the home to return to disrepair.  It is so easy to get frustrated and feel that even with God’s help, even with the very best of intentions nothing we do makes a difference in the long run.  But it does!

     It is hard to remember that the physical work we do here is temporary.  It may last a few days, a few weeks or a few years.  Sometimes it may last for generations, but ultimately, it is temporary.  What we can do that makes a difference, a real, permanent difference is to touch another person’s heart.  Be, for them, God’s love. 

As we embark on building Betty a home that we hope to last many, many years; I pray that this group does not forget the real purpose and goal that is before us.  Betty needs a home in which to live, but she, like all of us, needs to see God’s love in action and feel surrounded by His love, His people.  One of the great joys of working on Betty’s home is watching the community gather to show love.  Churches from several denominations, Habitat for Humanity, Davidson College Alumni and Davidson City Hall, are all working together for a common cause.  It is a beautiful thing.
Habitat Home similar to what we are proposing for Betty.


The committee to build Betty’s home met again on Tuesday to discuss fundraising.  We need to raise about $65,000 to fund the building of Betty’s home.  $32,500 must be raised and the pledges available for the remainder before we can begin.  It sounds overwhelming to those of us who have worked on Salkehatchie shoestring budgets for many years.

But, clearly God has a plan with this house.  So, in the next few weeks, letters will be written, signs will be designed and videos made.  Betty will see a couple of Habitat homes that will let her experience what she can expect to see in her new home.  Plans will be made for bake sales and car washes, BBQ pits scheduled, and most importantly, prayers will be said and answered.  As we all move together and watch expectantly to experience a moment of Grace, please continue to keep Betty in your prayers.


Monday, June 25, 2012

A Kairos Moment

by: Ann Gibert

Scripture passages are portions of 1 Samuel 17, the story of David and Goliath, and 2 Corinthians 6:1-13

     The story of David and Goliath is familiar to most of us, since it has always been a popular one for Sunday school, vacation Bible school and other child-friendly programs. Who doesn't like a story of a little guy beating up on the bully everyone is afraid of? But there is a “backstory” to David and Goliath which is my focus. At the time of the story, the nation of Israel, led by King Saul, was at war with the Philistines, whose champion was Goliath. David was not even in the army – he had just arrived with a care package from home for his brothers when he heard Goliath's challenge and offered to take him on. Hold that thought, and think about the language in the passage from 2 Corinthians referenced above. When we translate Greek into English, we have only one word for “time”. The Greeks had two – chronos and kairos. Chronos is easy for us to understand – chronology, chronological and chronometer all come from this Greek root. Chronos is “time” in the sense of measured time. But there is another kind of time, kairos time. This is usually translated into English as “at the right time” or “at the appointed time”. When you say something like, “I met my boyfriend at just the right time”, you are talking about kairos. Think of your life as a timeline. On one end, you're born, and on the other, you die. In between you can log in all sorts of details, like the schedule from the calendar on your phone, but if you write a timeline for your life, you will find there are certain times that stand out. Maybe they didn't stand out then they happened, but now you look back and think, “Aha!”. Kairos moment.

     The rest of this story is about an ongoing series of kairos moments that have been happening in Huntersville recently. If you're reading this, it's because you know a little bit about who Betty Patterson is and what happened to her. When this series of events began, I didn't know a thing. That is where I need to start.

     For ten years, groups of youth and adult leaders have descended upon our church and our community to help owner-occupiers rehab their homes. We've done roofs, porches, additions, floor joists, flooring, plumbing, bathrooms, kitchens, laundry rooms and ramps, lots and lots of ramps. Because of issues beyond our local church, this will be our last time to host this program. Jerry Kita and I were talking about how it would be a shame to have folks with all these skills and nowhere to put them to work, and about the confidence and community that had grown among the participants over the years. I remember saying a variation of “When God closes a door, he opens a window”, which, given that this was a construction ministry, I thought was both appropriate and punny.

     A few weeks later, Jerry called and told me that Betty Patterson's house had burned down. My reasonable response was to ask, “And who is Betty Patterson?” Betty is a homeowner in the Huntersville community, and she was on our list to have her roof repaired during our July 2012 camp. Because her roof was in such bad shape, her insurance had been cancelled. We were planning to repair the roof so she could get coverage again. We were a few weeks too late.

This is background for the story of the kairos moments.

     First, Betty normally takes a nap in the afternoon in a room that would have had no exit except through the fire. But that day, she went out to run an errand. She came home to a burning house, and the presence of the pastor of Hopewell Presbyterian Church, Allan Purtill, who happened to be driving by and stopped, like Mayor Cory Booker, to make sure everyone was safe. That kind pastor stayed to comfort Betty, and heard from her the story of how we (the folks at Huntersville UMC) were going to fix her roof. He called our senior pastor, who called Jerry, who called Mona, who arrived at Betty's house before the fire trucks left. That night, a cryptic message went up on Facebook to pray for one of our homeowners. The following morning, Frank Green, a veteran of our camp, called and said, “We need to build this lady a house.” It's what we were hearing too, and getting this confirmation was both a good and a scary thing. We've never done this before. From scratch. Without funding from somewhere. Help!
 

     The pastor of Hopewell Presbyterian called Jerry and told him that since he was there when the fire started, he thought that meant that he and his church should help us help Betty. We reached out to Habitat for Humanity, and they responded with a generous offer to share house plans, contractor info and skilled labor for the build. We had a meeting, and began to develop a plan.

     The first roadblock would be testing the site for asbestos, which would determine the ease and the cost of demolition. The morning following that meeting, our friend from China Grove called Jerry and said that he had been thinking we should have the site tested for asbestos (lol) and that he had someone who would test it free.

     Two weeks later, at our next meeting, several more kairos moments had occurred. Jerry got an e-mail from one of the women Betty works for (she's a housekeeper) offering her help and the help of some people at her business. We invited her to come to the meeting. Our friend, Frank Greene, from First United Methodist in China Grove came, bearing good news (we think) about the asbestos testing, as  was a member of Hopewell Presbyterian, my husband (he's the legal/fundraising advice guy) and two people from Habitat. One of them is a trained site leader who grew up in these parts and, wait for it, Betty worked for his parents. He had already been to check out the site and to talk to her before he knew what we were planning.

     At the end of that meeting, we had assigned some tasks/roles to different folks at the meeting, and agreed on the next steps, which included talking to a church member about serving as a bookkeeper for the project and clearing what we were doing with Betty. The next morning, I really needed to get out of town for the Methodists' Annual Conference, but I had to go by the church office before I left. Who should walk in but the church member I needed to talk to about the bookkeeping. Do I need to tell you she said yes?

     Our other big concern was how to go about raising the money we need. We estimate that even with donated labor, the cost of materials and permits will be as much as $65,000. That's a daunting number. I prayed all the way to Conference and back about this. I wasn't feeling well the last morning, so I opted to come home early. I arrived this past Friday afternoon, and after a nap, was beginning to feel a bit better. I felt a LOT better after a member of the Davidson College community called to tell me that she had been calling all the people she knew of whom Betty had worked for, and had a list of contacts who would be willing to donate. She also had someone who was willing to write and mail the letters!

Did I mention that Jesus wants us to build this lady a house?

I preached at Huntersville UMC this past Sunday, and told this story, and the kairos moments keep on happening. After the first service, a VERY excited youth practically pinned me to the wall to find out how she could help, and she ran off to find her grandmother, who, the night before, had mentioned that she was getting ready to redecorate her living room and was going to give away two very nice chairs, which are now saved for Betty.

After the late service, I got more comments about a sermon than I ever have. I believe that the phrase “kairos moment” is going to become part of the church vocabulary.
Monday, while tying up some loose ends for the mission camp, I met a volunteer from Christ Community Church who has helped us for years. She wants a copy of this so she can see if her church will put together a build team. Then I called our contact at New Friendship Presbyterian. In the course of the conversation, I mentioned that we were transitioning into this new project, hoping that they might also be willing to help. Guess what? She's Betty's cousin! Folks, I could not make this up.

As I told the congregation on Sunday, life is a journey. Take a good map, enjoy detours, and look for open windows. This is a kairos time, not just for Betty, or for our church, but for the Huntersville community. God is calling!